Before you decide to move forward with a divorce, it’s reasonable to make sure that this is what you really want to do. Once you tell your spouse you want to separate, it may be difficult if you change your mind.
That’s why it’s smart to ask yourself a few important questions before you go to your attorney to discuss a divorce as a possibility. Here are three questions you should have the answers to.
- Did you talk to your spouse about your concerns?
The first thing you can do is talk to your spouse about why you’re unhappy in your relationship. If you haven’t done this step, then you may not be able to fault your spouse for being unable to adapt or help in other ways.
It’s a good idea to sit down with your spouse to discuss whatever it is that bothers you, whether that’s feeling lonely or wanting them to play a stronger role in cleaning up the house.
- If you could save your marriage, how would you?
The next thing to look at is how you would save your marriage if you could. Answer both parts of that question: What would your spouse have to do, and what would you have to do? If you can’t see a way to resolve your marital conflicts or simply don’t want to save your marriage, then your answer is right in front of you: divorce.
- Are you ready to handle life without your spouse?
You won’t have someone to fall back on when you need help with dinner or want to sit with someone to talk. You won’t be able to ask for extra financial support if you can’t pay a bill this month or run out for a night with friends while relying on your spouse to be home to watch your children. You need to thoroughly consider if your life is going to be better without your spouse and how it will change.
These are three questions to think about before you take the leap into divorcing. Divorce may be the right choice, but it’s better to be sure before starting the divorce process.