Irritability, grief, anxiety, fright, anger – these are just some of the strong emotions you may be coping with simultaneously as your divorce unfolds. Those feelings can pile up fast. It takes a huge toll on you, probably more than you even realize. If you have kids, you are subconsciously shouldering their pain and sadness, too. All of it gets hard to tolerate for even the most resilient people.
It’s more critical than ever to look after yourself throughout the divorce. If you feel depleted in body and spirit, you need a “reset” of sorts to stay healthy so you can handle all the changes that are coming your way.
It’s easy to let yourself languish while you are in the throes of a divorce. But the time you take to recharge and restore yourself is valuable and important.
Making a wellness plan for yourself
Give this some careful thought. You may have ideas about reinvigorating yourself during this trying time that you never paid much attention to before. Start with these suggestions:
- Someone trained to help people in your situation, like a social worker or mental health expert, may give you a new and useful perspective.
- Do fun things you enjoy doing so that you can relax. If you like going to the theater or seeing movies, buy a ticket for yourself. Attend a sporting event or a concert. If you have a favorite hobby, indulge in it on a regular basis. Get your mind completely off your worries with lighthearted activities.
- Rearrange your home. Put away the wedding pics and the painful reminders of your ex. Shuffle the furniture. Buy new rugs, curtains or knick knacks. Change the color scheme. Add a new lamp and an end table. The main objective is to begin anew.
- Exercise is highly restorative. If you have neglected your exercise schedule lately, dust it off and get moving.
You can move forward
You might feel so inundated now that you are convinced nothing will ever improve. It does all get better. Surround yourself with caring, well-informed people who can refresh your attitude and guide you.